Relationships are a complicated thing, and people start doubting whether they’re perfect or not. Most of us are aware of a toxic relationship’s red flags, but how do we know whether a relationship is working or not? It’s time to discuss the signs and give you the reassurance that your relationship is on the right track.
Everyone has heard of red flags, but no one really talks about the green flags. So, let’s dive in to discuss the signs that indicate your relationship is excellent and healthy. Healthy relationships look different for different people as people have their own unique needs. Similarly, heteronormativity plays a profound role in determining the value of relationships, which it shouldn’t. This completely changes the meaning of a healthy relationship for different people. Let’s try to discuss the signs of a perfect and healthy relationship out of the folds of heteronormativity.
Here are some of the hallmarks of a healthy relationship.
Communication is an essential part of any healthy relationship. If you don’t hesitate to respectfully communicate your true feelings and talk about difficult issues with each other, then your relationship is on the right track. Both partners feeling heard and understood in a relationship is critical, according to Sari Cooper, a certified sex therapist at AASECT. Only then can they move on to discuss and negotiate a particular issue; and make a decision. You may have learned to push uncomfortable things under the surface for the sake of harmony in a relationship, and it’s okay to have these tendencies. What’s more important is to work on these issues and to acknowledge these difficult feelings. Because healthy communication is the lifeline of a good relationship, and it nourishes your relationship into a happy one.
Respect is the most critical component of a healthy relationship, and it is a two-way process. If both of you respect each other’s boundaries and don’t talk in ways to belittle and invalidate each other’s experience, then your relationship is moving in the right direction. It is so important to value each other’s time and opinions. A perfect partner respects your privacy. Real respect happens when “your partner understands and accepts that you are, first and foremost, a unique individual,” according to Clinical Psychologist Franklin A. Porter. Every person comes with their unique interests, needs, and life experiences in a relationship. Having everything in common is not as good as you think it might be; instead, you need to respect each other to work together on the relationship.
Trust might seem evident and static, but its definition in a relationship is constantly changing. Two people in a relationship come across many situations that spark temptations, jealousy, or insecurity for each other, says Cooper. The healthy and effective way to deal with it is to proactively reassure each other with compassion and empathy rather than dismissiveness. If your relationship lacks trust, then it is very much prone to stress and uncertainty. Trust relies on honesty and integrity. It makes you feel safe and comfortable with your partner. It is a feeling that your partner will not hurt you physically and emotionally. Having the best interests for one another in mind and letting each other make their own choices make a relationship healthy.